Posted by: Stephen Rigby at 12:58, February 26 2018.
A fellow hypnotherapist once said to me that telling someone that they are an addict is the best way to knock any effort to change out of them. So, telling someone who smokes that they are addicted to nicotine is guaranteed to demotivate them and make them feel there is no way they can ever quit.
What MSN Said
In an article published on 10 January this year, aimed at giving smokers some motivation to stop smoking titled “This is what happens to your body just eight hours after quitting smoking” in a paragraph titled “Those are the benefits - here's the hard part” the first three sentences state:
You'll go into withdrawal and it's going to be tough.
Nicotine creates a chemical dependency so your body develops a need for a certain level at all times.
Withdrawal symptoms are unpleasant and stressful, and you can expect to eat more to compensate.
In these three sentences, smokers are told they are addicts and that they will put on weight. That is enough to demotivate any smoker from attempting to stop smoking, even more so if that person has a bit of an obsession about their weight!
How Addictive is Nicotine?
The chemical effects of nicotine are well documented and we have all heard that nicotine is “highly addictive” but, when it comes to quitting smoking, this is only half the story because how addictive something is gives no indication as to how difficult it is to break that addiction. As the MSN article highlights, the true measure of that is the intensity of the withdrawal symptoms.
Recent research suggests that in most cases smoking one cigarette can lead to someone becoming a regular smoker but vaping once does not lead to regular vaping. In an episode of the BBC Two television programme “Trust me, I’m a Doctor”, Michael Mosley tried for a month with the help of an addictions expert to develop an “addiction” to nicotine – he failed! This does not seem to make sense since the process of vaping can deliver the same amount of nicotine as a cigarette. It makes sense, however, if the withdrawal symptoms from nicotine are extremely mild and there is another mechanism working when it comes to encouraging someone to continue smoking.
This other mechanism must involve the physical act of smoking because, before the smoking ban, sitting in a cinema, pub or restaurant for a couple of hours being choked by other’s cigarette smoke did not give the non-smokers any desire to buy cigarettes for their own consumption – quite the opposite!
Withdrawal, What Withdrawal?
The MSN article states that “Nicotine creates a chemical dependency so your body develops a need for a certain level at all times”, certainly this occurs with a chemical addiction but is meaningless if the withdrawal is negligible.
That the withdrawal symptoms are negligible is suggested by the experience of my Stop Smoking with Hypnotherapy clients, who generally state that their sleep is not disturbed by a need to smoke (8 hours) and that they frequently have no desire to smoke when travelling on long haul flights (12-13 hours). I even had one client, smoking over twice the average number of cigarettes stated in the MSN article, who had even gone on holiday for three months and during that time, not only not smoked but did not even think of smoking – so much for withdrawal!
So Why Did He Not Want to Smoke?
Invariably the reason that smokers give for my client not smoking is because he was away from his normal routine and everyday stresses – this was not the reason but in saying this the smoker identifies emotional triggers for smoking as being stronger than chemical ones. (If you want to fully understand how he did what he did you will have to come for a Smoking Cessation session.)
If one were to regard nicotine replacement as largely placebo it would explain why it does not work in the long term (the number of people smoking one year after stopping using nicotine replacement is the same as the number of people smoking who used willpower alone)! NHS Stop Smoking Centres know emotions play a large part in a person smoking because they offer “psychological support” alongside Nicotine Replacement Therapy. I wonder how many smokers realise that the stop smoking drug Zyban was initially developed as an antidepressant.
Looking at The MSN Article Positively
There is one positive in the MSN article but it is unlikely that it was intended in this way and that is if someone is told that a task will be difficult they will not attempt it until that are truly committed to completing it “no matter what”! Unfortunately, most smokers do not make a commitment to stop smoking but “try” to stop or make an “attempt”. This is most likely because deep down they fear that they will not be able to cope with their emotions without their “friend” and are ready to cave in at the first emotional challenge.
What the MSN Article Should Have Said
Diverting from the focus on Nicotine would have required a total rewrite but if the article truly wanted to motivate people to stop smoking this is what it should have said in that title and three subsequent sentences.
Make a Decision if You Want to be Free of Smoking
Do not expect it to be easy because now you have to find another excuse to take a break or get thinking time (or whatever you were using smoking to excuse).
People often use Nicotine replacement but this is largely a placebo as the discomfort that is often mistaken for withdrawal (cravings) is mostly emotional and will pass without the need for drugs.
Be careful not to substitute food for smoking because all comfort eating will do is make you put on weight.
All it Takes is to Stick to Your Decision
Nobody is saying that breaking the habit of smoking is easy or that Nicotine does not have a chemical effect on the body but quitting gets a lot easier if one has a more positive picture of the task being undertaken. Smoking acts more like a habit than an addiction – a habit that is extremely easy to develop but still a habit. Regarding smoking as a habit places the task of beating it firmly with the smoker as there is nothing else (no chemical) to blame.
Posted by: Stephen Rigby at 10:39, December 7 2017.
People may call it fate, they may call it predestination. The concept of destiny - that our lives are already mapped out and there is little that we can do about what happens to us, is something that many people believe to be true. It may bring comfort to some to believe that the mistakes they have made or the misfortune that they have suffered are in some way unavoidable. The idea may also bring some strength to those who find themselves in dangerous or potentially dangerous circumstances. The suggestion that the bullet will not hit you unless it “has your name on it”, is an expression of a belief in fate or predestination.
Is Luck Relevant?
Closely related to fate is luck. If luck was something out of our control it would be impossible to change our luck – yet as Richard Wiseman illustrated in his book that documented the results of scientific study, The Luck Factor, one’s luck can be improved by following four simple principles. If luck can be influenced then why not fate?
What Value is Hope?
A belief in fate or predestination may cause one to lose hope - why make any effort if nothing one does will change the outcome? One of the most powerful things we possess is hope – the belief that things will get better. I once spoke to a survivor of a Japanese prisoner of war camp who stressed that the only people who survived were those who had hope and this concept has been echoed by many people who have survived extreme situations – whether it be a concentration camp or being frozen and left for dead on a mountain!
We often set our hearts on things or work steadfastly towards a goal only to have our hopes dashed. In circumstances like these, it is always useful to believe that something better is just around the corner – and often it is!
Being in the Wrong Place at the Wrong Time!
Our lives are largely ruled by chance but one must not lose sight of the positive that can come from those times when chance throws us misfortune. One survivor of Auschwitz, Viktor Frankl, a neurologist and psychiatrist, made sense of the evil and inhumanity to which he was subjected by looking for positive meaning in his experiences. An example of his approach would be how he introduced positive meaning into the thinking of an elderly man who had just lost his wife. The man had a deep loyalty to his wife and expressed this with his commitment that he would always be there for her. Frankl pointed out that in order for him to achieve that, his wife had to die before him. The man had still lost his wife and still had to deal with his grief but at least he could take some comfort that he had fulfilled his promise – he had always been there for her and never deserted her, as he would have done, had he been the first to die.
What if One is Born with a “Silver Spoon in Ones Mouth”?
I do not believe in fate or predestination but that we make our own way in life. Unfortunately, we are not all born equal – some are born into privilege and some are not. We are also all born with different levels of ability. All these different circumstances give us different potentials. Fate and predestination may not exist but the circumstances into which we are born may have an influence on what happens to us and how we respond. The outlook cultured by our upbringing, combined with our talents and abilities can hugely influence the direction we take in life. Life Coaching can be viewed as a means to change one’s direction and utilise one’s talents and abilities more effectively. It is taking control of one’s life and not leaving ones life’s direction down to chance.
What is Destiny?
Everyone is born with a potential for achievement but achieving that potential does not come easily. One might view one’s potential as one’s destiny People who achieve in life are those who accept the anxiety that comes from stepping above “the norm” of their social group to develop their potential, those who refuse to accept fate and have the belief (hope) that they can make their lives better. There is a quote that highlights this process that I believe is credited to Carl Jung; it says “the greatest thing a man can achieve is his own destiny”.
Posted by: Stephen Rigby at 10:43, June 28 2017.
Last summer I went on a visit to Longleat Safari Park. It was a great day out. One of the displays of animals was a colony of tamarins and marmosets. Their home was in the middle of a wooded area and made to look like a South American Aztec temple. There were tree branches and thick ropes for them to climb and run around. What was striking was that there were no bars or cage enclosing them and the ropes hung over and around the pathway. There was, not surprisingly, a member of staff on duty there all the time. The obvious question we asked of them was “why don’t they just run away?”
Ever Felt Like Running Away?
Do you ever feel like just turning your back on everything and running away? Sometimes that does seem like the best solution and sometimes people do just that. In 1976 the first series of a very popular situation comedy, the Rise and Fall of Reginald Perrin staring the late Leonard Rossiter was shown on TV. The series, based on a novel written by David Nobbs, followed the life of Reginald Perrin (Rossiter), who, fed up with everything about his life, faked his own death by leaving his clothes on the beach and disappeared. When I was a child a friend of the family pre-empted the series by leaving his clothes on the beach and disappearing. Everyone feared he was dead – his wife (with a small baby), his friends, family and everyone at the church where he was a member. Then out of the blue there was a call to his church minister from France. The friend told the minister that he could not remember anything about the previous two weeks (his period of disappearance) or how he got to France but needed help to get home. Everyone was happy that he had returned and nobody ever questioned him about this “odd” occurrence. His wife maybe had a few words to say in private but what issues there may have been were obviously resolved and everything returned to normal. He, like Reginald Perrin, felt the need to return home.
Are We The Same As A Tamarin Or Marmoset?
Why do more people not just up and leave and why having made the decision to leave do people return? The tamarins and marmosets stay put because they are fiercely territorial. They have their home and they stay were things are familiar, where they have friends and family. They stay with what they have spent time and effort creating and they find any change deeply upsetting. Unlike the tamarins and marmosets, our “familiar” can sometimes be regarded as both a sanctuary and a prison.
I had one gentleman come to see me for hypnotherapy to address his feelings of entrapment that he experienced having started a family. All of a sudden there were others to think about and he was no longer “free” to live the “single life” he had come to enjoy. For him, his home had become his prison.
How Do We Deal With The Desire To Run Away?
So what do we do when we are confronted by that desire to run away and “leave our clothing on the beach”? The first thing to remember is that our lives are not static, they are constantly changing. There will be times when we do not like the life we are living – we might feel constrained or frustrated by our responsibilities (family, work etc.) or our situation (income, location, education, gender etc.). If there is someone we can talk to about it that sometimes helps. Sometimes just holding tight and believing things will change is all that is required. Sometimes one has to work from within the situation to see if one can give oneself some manoeuvrability, to relieve the pressure sufficiently to restore balance again. Sometimes one has to bite the bullet and take action – have that conversation, look for a new job, move home or whatever is required to resolve the situation. If you truly are at the point where you are willing to walk away with nothing, you have nothing to lose from confronting the problem head on.
The Grass Is Always Greener
It may seem that the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence but, in reality, if we run from a problem, it invariably follows us. The realisation of this is, possibly, why people who have run away often return.
Posted by: Stephen Rigby at 10:22, May 11 2017.
If one is a hypnotherapist, one has to be able to hypnotise someone. When I had my initial hypnotherapy training, we were taught a number of different hypnotic inductions (ways to hypnotise people). We were taught slow inductions like progressive relaxation or the silent induction and rapid inductions like the “Zonk” and the “hand shake interrupt”. It is great fun to use these techniques and when I first started out I used to use some of them sometimes. The point was made, however, that “anything” can be used as a hypnotic induction and, although at the time, I did not understand what our instructor meant, as my experience grew, I realised that this is indeed the case.
How Does One Hypnotise Someone?
To the general pubic the process of hypnosis is swathed in mystery but in truth it is supremely easy to hypnotise someone and everyone can be hypnotised (take no notice of anybody who claims otherwise).
All hypnosis is actually self-hypnosis. It is particularly easy to hypnotise someone as part of a hypnotherapy session because they have already prepared themselves to be hypnotised.
The “Obsession” with Hypnotic Inductions
When people first started using hypnosis in the therapeutic process, hypnotic induction took a long time. The patient would be told to do something like looking at a candle flame and the hypnotist would check back every now and then to check for hypnotic phenomena to see whether they had entered hypnosis. An induction may have taken up to an hour or more.
The American, Dave Elman, who practiced in the 40’s and 50’s, changed all that because he saw the potential for all doctors and dentist to use hypnosis. Elman reasoned that if an induction took longer than 60 seconds it was of no use to a doctor or dentist. It was him who proposed that it was not the hypnotist doing the hypnotising but the patient and developed a number of inductions along that theory. Elman was in a position to prove his theory because he lectured doctors and dentists and as part of a lecture would use a 60 second induction and then get a dentist to perform something like root canal treatment on the patient with no additional anaesthesia.
I have my favourite inductions but whenever there is a hypnotherapy conference there is frequently a speaker on hypnotic inductions – particularly “rapid” inductions.
The Value of Experience
I wonder sometimes who the intended audience might be for a lecture on hypnotic inductions. After one has been practicing as a hypnotherapist for a while, one realises that for many people who come to a hypnotherapist for help, the only induction required is to say “now, close your eyes and relax”. That is pretty clever when one considers that to be hypnotised one does not have to close one’s eyes or be relaxed! A certain amount of preparation is required to achieve this but the skill, ultimately, is in the hypnotised and not the hypnotiser.
Who is the Audience?
An experienced hypnotherapist is not interested in different ways to hypnotise but in different ways to help their client change perspective. Hypnosis on its own does not achieve a great deal and an experienced hypnotherapist already has all the skills they need to help someone into hypnosis.
Ultimately, a lecture on hypnotic inductions cannot be intended to appeal to experienced hypnotherapists but to those who are just starting out. If hypnotherapists continue to “come and go” with the rapidity I have seen over the years, there will always be an eager audience for these lectures.
Posted by: Stephen Rigby at 15:34, March 28 2017.
A client recently told me of an experience a friend of hers had with hypnotherapy that was a classic situation where a concept I call “The Gift” would have come in handy.
The concept of “The Gift” is simple and can best be illustrated by something that most of us have experienced. Have you ever greeted a friend whose response did not seem right? Something in the tone of their voice or expression told you that something was wrong. The “something” that is different gives us information that we might follow up on with a more specific question about their wellbeing.
To understand the sense that something is wrong, it is helpful to use a model of the mind that is fairly standard among hypnotherapists. This is just a model and not fact but it serves to explain in a simple way how the mind seems to work. At the top level, we have the conscious mind which are the thoughts that we are aware of and below that is the subconscious mind that holds our feelings, instincts and memories. The feeling we get that tells us all is not right with our friend is a communication from our subconscious. We might also call it instinct or gut reaction.
Trapped in Hypnosis
Communications from ones subconscious do not stop just because one is hypnotised. The experience my client told me about was of a particularly powerful communication from someone’s subconscious that was received and ignored. The friend’s daughter had apparently become trapped in hypnosis.
Despite popular belief, exploited by the stage hypnotist, hypnosis is a process under the control of the person being hypnotised, not the hypnotist - it is, therefore, impossible to become trapped in hypnosis. The friend’s daughter had felt unable to open her eyes at the end of the hypnosis and when the hypnotherapist did not handle the situation particularly well, the young lady had panicked.
What Really Happened?
Eye locking is a “hypnotic phenomena” and appears on most scales of hypnotic depth. I use eye locking frequently as part of a hypnotic induction. Experiencing the feeling of difficulty opening one’s eyes after a session of hypnosis has about the same seriousness as not wanting to get up when the alarm goes off! However, the extent to which the young lady had reacted could be described as abnormal and therefore she experienced what is termed as an “abreaction”.
Using “The Gift”
Anything that a person may feel whilst hypnotised that can be described as an interruption – like not being able to open their eyes at the end of the hypnotic session, might be regarded as an attempt by the subconscious to communicate something. If the subconscious feels it necessary to intervene and effectively say “hold on a minute, I have something to say” then that is a real gift and should be responded to appropriately.
The hypnotherapist, even though they apparently had many years of experience, did not know how to handle his client’s inability to open her eyes and not only missed out on a valuable subconscious comment (a gift) but also succeeded in instilling a fear of hypnosis in to at least two people.
Communicating with the Subconscious
There is an interesting colloquialism: “I was in two minds about it”. This occurs when one’s logic (conscious mind) says one thing but one’s feelings (subconscious mind) says the opposite. Creating a dialogue between a client’s “conscious” and “subconscious” minds can sometimes bring clarity to a client’s problem. If this communication occurs spontaneously, it truly is a gift and any decent hypnotherapist should know how to exploit this to the greater benefit of their client.
Posted by: Stephen Rigby at 11:34, December 5 2016.
Good hypnotherapists are always on the lookout for ways to improve their practice. This comes from a genuine desire to help people.
New Training Course
I saw a training course recently, not in hypnotherapy but I think it may appeal to many therapists. The person running the course is a qualified medical doctor (not just someone with a PhD who thinks that using the title Dr gives them additional prestige) and seems sincere. You may have heard of him and if not him, you will have heard of his celebrity friends in the music industry.
This therapy is based on the flow of a type of energy – compared to the Qi (chi) of Chinese medicine . He says that this energy flows within and between all matter whether living or inanimate. The theory is that illness is caused when this flow of energy is interrupted. Initially he used magnets to remove these blockages and this was so effective that some of his patients were thrown into convulsions as a precursor to recovery. He later realised that the magnets were not needed to remove these blockages and has developed other, less dramatic techniques to redirect and control these flows.
There are practitioners of this therapy in many countries of the world. In the UK this therapy has been used effectively to replace chemical anaesthesia and there is a scientific journal where practitioners can share research and exchange ideas.
If you feel that this is a training course that you would like to attend, there is one small problem – you have missed the registration date by over two hundred years.
Nobody likes to feel that they have been tricked, conned, scammed or swindled. In the classic 1973 film “The Sting”, starring Robert Redford and Paul Newman, a film about how two men set out to con a rich banker, it was stated that the best sting (con or scam) is where the person being stung never knows that they have been stung.
The course described would have been run by Anton Mesmer (1734 -1815). The term “mesmerised” comes from the work of Mesmer. The terms “mesmerised” and “hypnotised” are now used synonymously but Mesmer was no hypnotist although investigation of his work by the Scottish surgeon James Braid lead to an understanding of hypnotism. It was James Braid that coined the term “hypnosis” to describe the mental state that he observed.
Mesmer used the term “animal magnetism” to describe a fluid that he believed flowed in every living organism. It was contemporaries of Mesmer that compared it to the energy of Chinese medicine. Mesmer had the finest medical training of that time but mesmerism never received acceptance by conventional medicine or science and its scientific journal was one created by the mesmerists themselves. Born in Austria, Mesmer was friendly with the musicians Gluck, Haydyn and Wolfgang Mozart. A scandal, resulting from his absolute belief in animal magnetism, caused him to move from Austria to Paris where he became a bit of a celebrity. This drew the attention of King Louis XVI who established a team of five scientists from the Royal Academy of Sciences to investigate the existence of animal magnetism. The team included the famous chemist Antoine Lavoisier and the American Ambassador Benjamin Franklin. This team proved conclusively that there was no such thing as animal magnetism and it, therefore, did not flow between or through every living organism and Mesmer’s theory that illness was caused by blockages in its flow was disproved.
The disproving of Mesmer’s theories finished Mesmer. Mesmer moved away from Paris and very little is known of him after that time.
Are We Missing Something Valuable?
But what of mesmerism? One cannot discount the fact that mesmerism was used effectively in a number of clinical operations to induce anaesthesia and Mesmer undoubtedly helped some people. On this basis, one might argue that mesmerism is a valuable therapy. On the other hand, one must realise that mesmerism only worked in those circumstances where Mesmer’s ceremonies induced the hypnotic state – at all other times his patients were paying for nothing more than an expensive show – they were being deceived. The deception proliferated by Mesmer and his followers conned vulnerable people and people seeking training, out of their money – they were sold a lie. Personal belief and the observation that sometimes mesmerism was helpful, trapped people in a theory that was fantasy and therefore, prevented the discovery of something far more effective - hypnosis.
Jumping to the Wrong Conclusions
It is extremely easy to jump to the wrong conclusions when one observes a positive outcome. Richard Bandler (the cocreator of Neuro-linguistic Programming, NLP), in the process of developing NLP, imitated (referred to as modelling) the practice of Fritz Pearls the developer of Gestalt therapy. Pearls was recognised as being an incredibly effective therapist but Richard Bandler actually became more effective at what Pearls did than Pearls himself. The difference was caused by Pearls’ theory of how his therapy worked. His theory was incorrect and it influenced how he worked and therefore made him less effective. Bandler had no such restriction because he did not know why what he did worked. It was John Grinder (the other cocreator of NLP) who ultimately worked out what was actually happening – but that is another story.
Was Mesmer a Charlatan?
A scam is deliberate deception but Mesmer’s deception was, most likely, not intentional. He was a highly educated and respected doctor. Mesmer had the skill to test for the existence of animal magnetism but chose to believe that it existed because of the change he saw some people experience. From all accounts, he was sincere in his beliefs. Unfortunately, sincerity is not, and never has been, an indication of truth.
Posted by: Stephen Rigby at 10:55, October 11 2016.
I cannot claim to be an athlete or have much skill at sport but I have over the years engaged in various athletic activities. I have been a member of various clubs and have been an active member of our local gym for years.
Consequently, I am no stranger to sit ups, lunges, star jumps, Russian twists, squats and press-ups (to mention a few). There are usually multiple ways of performing the same exercise and I can probably demonstrate over half a dozen different ways of performing a press-up alone.
Competing with a Superhero
A few months ago I watched a video on Youtube that was doing the rounds. It concerned a challenge that a young man (probably 15 or 16 years old) had made to a character at a theme park in America. The character was some superhero that I had never heard of but the man playing the part had a good body that filled out the costume without any need for padding. The young man challenged him to a press-up competition. The person filming focussed on the “superhero” who drew gasps from the assembled audience when the competition began – he had seemingly completed more than half a dozen press-ups in the time it took the young man to complete one. The “superhero” then switched to one armed press-ups at a similar speed – drawing yet another gasp from the audience. The only problem was that the “superhero” was not doing full press-ups whereas the young man was. There is a huge difference between doing a press-up and slightly bending one’s arms. The young man – with a straight body – was “kissing” the ground. The “superhero” was lowering his body no more than a few inches – even less when he switched to one arm press-ups.
Superhero Bow Your Head in Shame
The “superhero” had made the same mistake that many people make when they increase the speed of an exercise: they do it at the expense of performing it correctly. The problem with doing this is that one fails to actually work the muscles that the exercise is intended to target. Despite his condescending looks towards the youth which said, “this is how it’s done, kid!” and his muscular physique, that “superhero” would probably have failed miserably to complete even a couple of full press-ups.
How Does One Define a Squat
The young man who made the challenge made the mistake of not defining what constitutes a press-up before the competition commenced, which brings us to the topic of this blog. A squat starts when the thighs are parallel with the ground and is anywhere below that point. A crouch is any point above where a squat begins. Whether performing push-ups or squats, they both tend to become more shallow the more tired the performer becomes.
Crouch or Squat, Does it Really Matter?
In many exercise classes I have attended where squats have been required, I have seen people doing crouches. There may be many reasons for this. Crouches are easier to perform than squats (particularly if one has a loaded barbell across one’s shoulders) so the person may be being kind to their knees, they may have some physical limitation that prevents them performing squats, they may be new to the class and not developed sufficient strength in their legs to perform a proper squat, they may not know what constitutes a squat or they may just be fooling themselves (like the “superhero”). Whether one performs a full squat or a crouch is irrelevant if one is getting the exercise that one desires and it is generally better to be doing some regular exercise than to be doing nothing at all. The only time it becomes an issue is if those squats form part of a competition.
How is This Relevant to Hypnotherapy or Life Coaching?
As a Hypnotherapist and Life Coach . I use many different techniques to assist my clients to make change (the process is not scripted – unless the Hypnotherapy or Life Coaching is delivered by someone with incomplete training) . It is normal that my client may find some of the exercises more difficult than others. Sometimes I have a client who feels they are not performing an exercise as well as they should and they become discouraged. To use the analogy above – they feel they are doing a crouch and not a squat. The truth is that whether one is in an exercise class or in therapy the only requirement is that one does ones best. Unless one is in competition, one’s best is always good enough!
Posted by: Stephen Rigby at 15:49, August 26 2016.
I have been a full time Hypnotherapist and Life Coach in Guildford since 2002 in that period, I have helped many people address weight problems but always using hypnotherapy and not specifically as a Life Coach.
Why is Life Coaching an Inappropriate Intervention?
The basis of Life Coaching is establishing where one wants to be and devising a plan to get there, so one would think that losing weight would fit nicely into that format. I have seen many Life Coaches advertising weight loss as one of their offerings but one must consider the tools that a Life Coach has to work with to understand why it is not an appropriate thing to address for a Life Coach.
I Have Tried That Already!
Someone who seeks help for weight loss will already have tried diets and exercise but this will be the main focus of a Life Coach. The person may be encouraged to set a goal for weight loss and a goal for exercise but these are not only what that person had tried and failed at but they are also things that are questionable when it comes to ongoing weight management.
What Does, “I want to lose weight” Mean?
When someone says they want to lose weight, what they usually mean is that they want their weight to be stable at a lower weight than they are currently. Most dieters will tell you that diets do not work in achieving long term weight control and one might argue that dieting makes you fat. Exercise generally increases ones appetite and makes one eat more – consuming more Calories than the exercise burns off.
You are Overweight because You Eat and/or Drink Too Much!
There are medical conditions that make one put on weight but generally, a person is overweight because they consume more than their body requires. It seems logical to say that the solution is to either eat less or burn more off in exercise but achieving that is not as easy as it sounds. When applied to a living being one has to account for physiological and psychological factors – things that diets rarely account for. The physiological and psychological factors are (if your diet actually achieves weight loss) what cause one to put on weight as soon as one stops the diet.
How Does One Learn to Control Ones Eating?
The body has a mechanism that naturally controls one’s weight and I teach people how to access that control mechanism. Once one has accessed this control mechanism (I call it stomach awareness), one eats less even though one enjoys food more (this is what my clients tell me). Stomach awareness can be taught using life coaching but the clue to learning to control ones eating in the long term is to understand that the reason why someone over eats is frequently tied up in their emotions. It is easy for a person to relate to this concept when they are able to trace their weight problem back to a single comment made about their weight (not an uncommon experience). It is somewhat harder to understand that being overweight may provide (for example) feelings of protection, safety, being a good parent or faithful spouse. Hypnotherapy for weight control addresses the emotions that get in the way of ongoing weight management.
The Subconscious Will Always Win
Being overweight does not make one safer, a better parent or a more faithful spouse but if subconsciously one believes it does, then it does not matter what one does to lose weight, one will fail! It does not matter how much encouragement a Life Coach may give to help one achieve one’s weight loss goals, if the goal is for long term weight control and underlying emotions are not addressed, their client will ultimately fail. Sadly, if weight loss is achieved during coaching, the client will blame the weight gain experienced after coaching as their own fault and not the fault of the Life Coach not doing an effective job!
Posted by: Stephen Rigby at 11:40, March 11 2016.
You have probably done the same: you are invited to dinner with friends and during the pre dinner drinks a dish of peanuts attracts your attention. You take a few, then a few more, then a few more and before you know it you have “overdosed” on peanuts! Is that greed?
One day I purchased a rather indulgent brioche which was layered through with an almond paste. At the checkout I was served by a rather overweight lady who commented that she could not buy this particular item because she would eat it all in one sitting. I told her that the solution was to put the brioche in a cupboard and only take one slice to the table at a time, replacing the remaining loaf back in the cupboard. This is a technique that is scientifically proven to reduce the quantity of any food one eats (cutting the loaf into single slices and deep freezing each one separately would work even better). Her response was telling “I could not do that because I would know where it is and know that I would get bored of doing that so I would take it all with me to the table”. Is this behaviour greed?
Are You Greedy?
Aimlessly eating peanuts at a party may be considered to be slightly different to consciously ensuring that a whole loaf of brioche is within easy reach but each of these behaviours could be said to be an example of greed – it all comes down to intent and awareness. The intent may be obvious – enjoyment of something that tastes nice. Eating a few peanuts too many or a whole brioche, as single incidents, will not normally have any long term consequences but doing it every day will. We all know the consequence of constantly over eating is getting fat. A definition of greed might be: to gratify the desire to experience something whilst ignoring the negative consequence of that action.
I frequently hear my weight loss clients say things like “I cannot have just one piece of chocolate – I have to eat the whole bar!” The chocolate is really just the tip of the iceberg (the part they can identify). This usually indicates a general behaviour of self indulgence. An excuse of “I cannot stop eating”, really means “I will satisfy my need for self gratification and ignore the consequences”. This is greed.
Have You Lost Contact With Your Stomach?
We all enjoy eating things that taste nice but for most people the consumption of a whole brioche loaf layered through with almond paste would make them feel ill and would not be something remembered as enjoyable. Something kicks in telling one that enjoyment has stopped and one stops eating. People with a weight problem quite frequently have lost the ability to recognise when their body is telling them they have eaten too much and they become trapped in a cycle of excess.
Stop Trying to Lose, Start Controlling
Most people talk about “losing weight” but a short period of restricting ones eating does not resolve a cycle of excess. One has to take control of ones weight and to control ones weight one must break the cycle of excess and learn to listen to ones body again. Control also requires learning to understand the emotions that cause one to overeat (e.g. why the lady at the checkout would take a loaf of brioche to the table knowing she would eat it all). Using hypnotherapy to learn how to control ones weight is not magic and requires some effort but those who come to me for hypnotherapy to control weight usually tell me that the process I take them through enables them to enjoy food more but eat less of it. Breaking the cycle of excess enables ones body to find its healthy level.
Posted by: Stephen Rigby at 10:42, November 18 2015.
I thought it had all been decided years ago and the NHS would no longer be wasting our money by spending it on homeopathy but I was wrong – here it is again – “Homeopathy on prescription could be banned from NHS”! The scientific research indicates that homeopathy has no effect other than placebo. Placebo can account for up to 40% of any therapeutic effect which is pretty significant but any scientific research carried out on a drug must take this into account and prove any claimed effect is due to the drug and not placebo. There are laws, rules and regulations that are in place to protect us from people who might extort money from us by deception. Ask yourself if you would prefer to pay £10 for a medicine that will probably cure you or £10 for one that will probably not cure you but if you believe strongly enough it might.
The Power of Placebo
I heard a comment from the British Homeopathy Association saying that homeopathy can have “profound effects”. Let’s face it, if you have 100 people suffering from a complaint and 40 of them see an improvement in their condition as a result of treatment, that is pretty profound but that would only be within the limits of placebo and scientifically speaking, substituting Smarties for the administered remedy would produce the same effect (and be cheaper). When one takes into consideration things like self selection and spontaneous remission, even that 40% recovery rate might be exceeded. When we see someone apparently get well after receiving treatment from an alternative therapist, it is extremely difficult not to accredit their “recovery” to the alternative therapy but in reality, with most alternative therapies, it is more likely to be due to the person’s own immune system and nothing to do with the treatment administered.
Appearing to Work is Not the Same as Working
Homeopaths claim scientific research to prove that homeopathy works but it is not regarded as sufficiently robust by the majority of science to be considered relevant. Much of the research into hypnotherapy is also not considered significant but that is because it is extremely difficult to design what is referred to as a “double blind” experiment for hypnotherapy. A double blind experiment for hypnotherapy would be one where neither the person being treated nor the person administering the treatment knew whether hypnosis was being used or not. This is, however, a difficulty that does not exist for homeopathy.
Personal Opinion Has Little Value in Science
There are so many different types of complementary and alternative therapies available and each of them claim they are effective. It is difficult to determine the truth, especially if one is faced with someone who has a strong or fervent belief as to the efficacy of a particular therapy (a belief that may or may not be justified). Although it is so often used to justify a particular treatment, the comment “it cured me” is, in reality, meaningless as all it means is that the person “got better” during the period they were receiving therapy or shortly after and not that the therapy actually did anything. One either allows oneself to be tossed and turned with each emerging wonder therapy or default to science.
Why Has Homeopathy Been Called Witchcraft?
Fortunately, people are now more informed about the true nature of hypnosis ; it was always an uninformed comment to claim that hypnosis is in any way an unnatural or occult practice. It is probably also a little unfair to say “homeopathy is witchcraft” but this comment has been made more than once. Unfortunately, homeopathy has left itself open to such comments by claiming things like when preparing a homeopathic remedy, it has to be stirred to work but stirring in the wrong direction will stop it working.
Make Therapies (Including Hypnosis) Prove Themselves Scientifically
Hypnosis has sufficient respect within the medical profession for there to be a Royal Society of Medicine Hypnosis Section (there is no homeopathy section). Hypnosis is also being increasingly used within medicine and dentistry to assist in treatment and care but is currently only very rarely available on the NHS. Despite what is currently happening with homeopathy there does seem to be a movement to offer more alternative therapies within the NHS. Although I feel there should be more use of hypnosis (strictly speaking a complementary therapy not an alternative one), I also believe that only those therapies that pass strict scientific evaluation should be offered by the NHS because without it the quality of our medical treatment will ultimately suffer.