The Writer Mum Podcast
Website: www.jjbarnes.co.uk Twitter: @JudieannRose
11/02/2016 10:05 AM
Episode 072 – Realising Vulnerability
The Writer Mum Podcast - Episode 072 - Realising Vulnerability
Today I talk about how an experience being followed home from the shops made me realise how vulnerable I actually am, and how much I hate it.
11/01/2016 01:54 PM
Episode 071 – Polyamory Or Everything From One?
The Writer Mum Podcast - Episode 071 - Polyamory Or Everything From One?
Today I discuss the appeal of polyamorous relationships, where your different needs are met by different people, and discuss whether you could ever get all your needs fulfilled by one person, or if something you desire will always have to be put aside for the sake of monogamy.
10/28/2016 11:34 AM
Episode 70 – Slag
The Writer Mum Podcast - Episode 70 - Slag
I talk about an experience I had when called a slag for wearing a short skirt. I discuss how it impacted me on a rare night out without my children, and how verbal abuse of women is far too readily accepted in society.
10/27/2016 05:45 AM
Episode 069 – The Illogicality Of Rape Victim Blaming
The Writer Mum Podcast - Episode 069 - The Illogicality Of Rape Victim Blaming
In this episode I talk about why people blame rape victims, asking what they were wearing and if they had flirted with their rapist, and discuss the reasons why it makes absolutely no sense.
10/26/2016 09:52 AM
Episode 068 – When I’m 83
The Writer Mum Podcast - Episode 068 - When I'm 83
In the latest episode I apologise for the break between podcasts due to my children being unwell. I then talk about when my daughter asked where I'll be when she turns 83, and how it brought about a realisation of my own mortality. I discuss trying to explain death to my children when I struggle with the concept myself.
10/23/2016 05:21 AM
Episode 067 – Apologies To My Second Born
The Writer Mum Podcast - Episode 067 - Apologies To My Second Born
Today I make apologies to my second born daughter. My new baby who isn't my only priority like my first born was, is left to cry whilst I look after my other children, and will never experience the intensely close bond of living alone with just me.
10/22/2016 06:29 AM
Episode 066 – Cuddle Your Children
The Writer Mum Podcast - Episode 066 - Cuddle Your Children
In this episode I talk about how important it is to cuddle your children, and how even when others are telling you to put your baby down when she cries, hold her. I talk about how just because your baby is clean and not in pain, their emotional and psychological needs still need meeting.
10/20/2016 07:48 PM
Episode 065 – I Love You
The Writer Mum Podcast - Episode 065 - I Love You
In this episode I talk about how I want to teach my daughter how to love, and about the different kinds of love, and how her first proclamation of love was to cheese... a love that holds strong to this day.
10/19/2016 07:12 PM
Episode 064 – Sex Beyond Biology
The Writer Mum Podcast - Episode 064 - Sex Beyond Biology
Tonight I talk about schools only teaching the technical facts about sex leaves the humanity and fun of sex education being left to pornography. I discuss that girls are being expected to do things far more extreme than they are comfortable with, and boys don't learn how to make sex pleasurable for both partners.
10/18/2016 06:18 AM
Episode 063 – Responses To Kim Kardashian’s Robbery
The Writer Mum Podcast - Episode 063 - Responses To Kim Kardashian's Robbery
In the days and weeks after Kim Kardashian was held at gun point in Paris, the internet responded. I look at some of the responses on Twitter and discuss them.
10/16/2016 03:56 PM
Episode 062 – Hands Up, Who’s Struggling?
The Writer Mum Podcast - Episode 062 - Hands Up, Who's Struggling?
In tonight's episode I talk about how important it is that we talk about it when we're finding it hard. How sharing your fears and vulnerabilities will ensure we don't feel alone and can welcome the help we need from others around us, and how we weren't supposed to go through the stress and worry of child rearing alone.
10/16/2016 06:12 AM
Episode 061 – The Doers, The Deniers, The Apologisers
The Writer Mum Podcast - Episode 061 - The Doers, The Deniers, The Apologisers
I talk about men and the sexual abuse of women. How the men who rape and abuse are the worst, but how the men who deny it is a problem are making it harder and harder for the women in their lives to come forward when they've been assaulted.
10/14/2016 08:34 PM
Episode 060 – Why Gender Stereotyping Kids Matters
The Writer Mum Podcast - Episode 060 - Why Gender Stereotyping Kids Matters
Tonight I talk about the negative impact gender stereotyping has on children, and why it's important we try to move forward as society to allow children to be children. Let toys be toys, let clothes by clothes, let kids be kids.
10/13/2016 07:55 PM
Episode 059 – I’m Not A Disappointment
The Writer Mum Podcast - Episode 059 - I'm Not A Disappointment
Tonight I talk about how my life got derailed and left me as a single mum on benefits, and how I was seen as a failure and a disappointment, but how my love of writing and my motivation to give my daughter a better life has started to turn things around as I work hard to achieve my goals.
10/11/2016 07:22 PM
Episode 058 – 10 Mistakes You’ve Made During Pregnancy
The Writer Mum Podcast - Episode 058 - 10 Mistakes You've Made During Pregnancy
In tonight's episode I talk about ten things you've been told you've done wrong during pregnancy, including; finding out the sex, not finding out the sex, exercising, and not exercising.
10/10/2016 07:28 PM
Episode 057 – Mistakes Before Motherhood
The Writer Mum Podcast - Episode 057 - Mistakes Before Motherhood
In tonight's episode I talk about how we all do things in our youth that we wouldn't do as adults, yet some condemn us as unfit mothers based on who we were, rather than who we are now.
10/09/2016 08:27 PM
Episode 056 – A Question Of Loyalty
The Writer Mum Podcast - Episode 056 - A Question Of Loyalty
Tonight I talk about the negative side of loyalty and how it can be used to manipulate and control people into staying in toxic relationships.
10/08/2016 06:45 PM
Episode 055 – Hateful Responses To Rejection
The Writer Mum Podcast - Episode 055 - Hateful Responses To Rejection
This episode I talk about the worst ways people can respond to the rejection of sexual advances, and why they're particularly unpleasant.
10/08/2016 06:17 AM
Episode 054 – Shame Them Whilst They’re Young
The Writer Mum Podcast - Episode 054 - Shame Them Whilst They're Young
Today I talk about schools banning girls from wearing skirts or fitted clothes because it's distracting for male pupils and staff. I discuss how this pattern of blaming girls for the behaviour of men starts at such a young age, and how it's time to put an end to it.
10/06/2016 08:43 PM
Episode 053 – Needing Alone Time
The Writer Mum Podcast - Episode 053 - Needing Alone Time
Tonight I talk about how I am teaching my daughter coping mechanisms for anxiety by encouraging her to vocalise her need for time alone, and how much it helps both her and me.
10/05/2016 07:15 PM
Episode 052 – Not The Best Mum I Can Be
The Writer Mum Podcast - Episode 052 - Not The Best Mum I Can Be
Tonight I talk about how mums are always told that as long as you're doing your best, that's enough. But how sometimes I don't do my best, because sometimes I need to just be selfish. Sometimes I just need time for myself.
10/05/2016 05:19 AM
Episode 051 – FGM
The Writer Mum Podcast - Episode 051 - FGM
This episode comes with a TRIGGER WARNING. I discuss female genital mutilation, how girls are put through this horrific abuse, and how we all need to be aware so more can be done to stop it. I ask that you share this, share any social media on it, and share news articles you see. Too few people are aware.
10/03/2016 06:38 PM
Episode 050 – Natural Mother
The Writer Mum Podcast - Episode 050 - Natural Mother
Tonight I talk about how I'm not someone who's natural at parenting and I'm not someone who has always felt at home around children. I discuss the impact it has on me to be raising children when it doesn't always feel like something I'm good at.
10/02/2016 08:32 PM
Episode 049 – Instagram Vs Reality
The Writer Mum Podcast - Episode 049 - Instagram Vs Reality
In this episode I talk about how we put images on social media that, whilst real photos, are not necessarily genuine representations of our lives as parents. I compare and contrast images I have posted with how it looks to the outside world, with my knowledge of what was really going on.
10/02/2016 05:24 AM
Episode 048 – Peter Scully and Parental Fear
The Writer Mum Podcast - Episode 048 - Peter Scully and Parental Fear
I talk about the intense fear I felt when I learned about the crimes of Peter Scully and how I have too force myself to let my children step out of my sight.
10/01/2016 05:31 AM
Episode 047 – Defiance
The Writer Mum Podcast - Episode 047 - Defiance
Tonight I talk about how my daughter is very defiant, and how in later life it will take her far, but currently it's just incredibly frustrating!
09/29/2016 08:20 PM
Episode 046 – People Collector
The Writer Mum Podcast - Episode 046 - People Collector
Tonight I talk about how my daughter craves the company of other people other than just me, and the reasons why she is particular desperate for time with her daddy and her nanny.
09/28/2016 06:21 PM
Episode 045 – Two Years On
The Writer Mum Podcast - Episode 045 - Two Years On
Tonight I talk about the day I realised it was the two year anniversary of my husband leaving me, and how that day changed my life dramatically.
09/27/2016 05:48 PM
Episode 044 – What’s Ugly About Me Today?
The Writer Mum Podcast - Episode 044 - What's Ugly About Me Today?
In tonight's episode I talk about how the advertising industry spend so much time telling women they're ugly and need improving, and therefore have to spend money.
09/26/2016 07:05 PM
Episode 043 – If I Could Bottle Memories
The Writer Mum Podcast - Episode 043 - If I Could Bottle Memories
Tonight I discuss the fleeting nature of childhood, and how a simple walk to school and remind you just how little time you have left before your child is grown and gone.
09/25/2016 08:27 PM
Episode 042 – The Reality Of Football
The Writer Mum Podcast - Episode 042 - The Reality Of Football
Tonight I talk about the negative view I had of football growing up, and how that changed when I got involved with a man who loves it.
09/24/2016 06:07 PM
Episode 041 – Divorced Dating
The Writer Mum Podcast - Episode 041 - Divorced Dating
Tonight I talk about my experience of being a divorced person entering into a romantic relationship with a divorced man, and the way you and others respond to that new union.
09/23/2016 06:23 PM
Episode 040 – Am I Joyce?
The Writer Mum Podcast - Episode 040 - Am I Joyce?
Tonight I talk about Joyce Summers, the TV mum I always swore I would never grow up to be... but how I have recently realised I'm actually mirroring a lot of her behaviour! Ironic really, considering I have a daughter named Buffy.
09/22/2016 08:07 PM
Episode 039 – Being Thirty
The Writer Mum Podcast - Episode 039 - Being Thirty
Tonight I talk about the milestones I expected to have reached or achieved at the age of 30, and as I approach my 31st birthday I discuss the difference between the expectations and the reality.
09/21/2016 06:50 PM
Episode 038 – Warriors For Justice
The Writer Mum Podcast - Episode 038 - Warriors For Justice
Tonight I discuss the term "Social Justice Warrior" and how it's used as an insult, but when you look at the social injustices across the globe with abuse of people for the sexuality, gender and race, how I believe there is no finer thing to be a warrior for than social justice.
09/20/2016 08:23 PM
Episode 037 – Keep You Near
The Writer Mum Podcast - Episode 037 - Keep You Near
I talk about how as a little girl I would always want to sneak into my mum's bed, and how my daughter is now mirroring that behaviour. I question whether it's best to let her in, or to try and establish a more stable sleep routine.
09/19/2016 06:28 PM
Episode 036 – Mumisms
The Writer Mum Podcast - Episode 036 - Mumisms
Tonight I share classic "mumisms"; phrases we all use every day, even though they were cliched and annoying back when our own mums used them on us!
09/18/2016 06:42 PM
Episode 035 – Leaving Memories
The Writer Mum Podcast - Episode 035 - Leaving Memories
Tonight I talk about what heirlooms mean to me, how their financial value is so much less significant the memories that come attached to them, and what I want to leave my children with after I die.
09/17/2016 06:56 PM
Episode 034 – I Don’t Need Feminism Because…
The Writer Mum Podcast - Episode 034 - I Don't Need Feminism Because...
Tonight I discuss common arguments against feminism.
09/17/2016 06:03 AM
Episode 033 – An Unwanted Kiss
The Writer Mum Podcast - Episode 033 - An Unwanted Kiss
I talk about an experience my three year old girl had with a stranger in a cafe and how much it impacted her.
09/16/2016 06:11 AM
Episode 032 – Not Wanting Children
The Writer Mum Podcast - Episode 032 - Not Wanting Children
In this episode I discuss how parents all say they can't imagine life without children, but how (as much as I adore my children) I can totally understand the appeal of that lifestyle.
09/15/2016 05:31 AM
Episode 031 – Goodnight Sweet Lady
The Writer Mum Podcast - Episode 031 - Goodnight Sweet Lady
TRIGGER WARNING - Discussions of Post Natal Depression and Suicide.
I discuss the dangerous nature of PND, how it ruins lives if left untreated, and how mothers all need to be aware both of themselves and the women in their lives to help catch this killer before it takes someone else we love.
09/13/2016 06:58 PM
Episode 030 – Contraceptive Kids
The Writer Mum Podcast - Episode 030 - Contraceptive Kids
Tonight I talk about the arguments against making contraception available to underage children, and whether allowing young teens access to contraception is likely to increase the chances of them having underage sex.
09/12/2016 07:21 PM
Episode 029 – Apologies To My First Born
The Writer Mum Podcast - Episode 029 - Apologies To My First Born
Tonight I talk about the changes I have made in my life that have had some negative impacts on my first born child, including a whole new family, a new baby, and an increasingly busy career.
09/11/2016 08:20 PM
Episode 028 – What Would It Take For You To Be A Refugee?
The Writer Mum Podcast - Episode 028 - What Would It Take For You To Be A Refugee?
Tonight I talk about the attitudes towards refugees that I find most troubling, and discuss the experiences people in such a crisis go through.
09/10/2016 07:59 PM
Episode 027 – Personality And Fashion
The Writer Mum Podcast - Episode 027 - Personality And Fashion
Tonight I talk about how my three year old daughter expresses her unique and awesome personality through her unconventional fashion choices. She conforms to neither masculine nor feminine styles, and makes bold choices. And I respect every decision she makes, even if it's a little bizarre!
09/09/2016 07:28 PM
Episode 026 – Bruises
The Writer Mum - Episode 026 - Bruises
Tonight I talk about the psychological bruises we are left with after damage from our past, and how in relationships it's easy to bump them and cause unintentional pain.
09/08/2016 07:13 PM
Episode 025 – Check Your Motivation
The Writer Mum Podcast - Episode 25 - Check Your Motivation
I talk about how I have found really looking at what I want to achieve has really helped me deal with my children's negative behaviours. How it has helped me focus on an end result rather than venting my frustration at the behaviour happening in the first place.
09/08/2016 05:51 AM
Episode 024 – Pudding Mummies
The Writer Mum Podcast - Episode 024 - Pudding Mummies
In this episode I talk about my collection of "pudding mummies", an online community of mothers with whom I share my highs and lows of parenting, and how having an online network of women you trust can be incredibly valuable.
09/06/2016 07:20 PM
Episode 023 – 8 Reasons Toddlers Are Assholes
The Writer Mum Podcast - Episode 023 - 8 Reasons Toddlers Are Assholes
Tonight I give 8 reasons why toddlers, who are the loves of our lives and truly amazing little humans, are also COMPLETE assholes who drive us to the point of insanity. And make us consider regular day drinking.
09/05/2016 06:29 PM
Episode 022 – Teaching Consent
The Writer Mum Podcast - Episode 022 - Teaching Consent
Tonight I talk about the importance of teaching children about consent, respecting that no means no, and the value in self respect. All without teaching them shame about their bodies or sexuality. And how difficult that is when they're too young to understand why it's important.
09/04/2016 06:42 PM
Episode 021 – Life Hacks
The Writer Mum Podcast - Episode 021 - Life Hacks
Tonight I share some "Life Hacks". Tips for making day to day life easier with chores and kids with nifty little short cuts! If you have any you'd like to share please get in touch and I'll share them on.
09/02/2016 07:54 PM
Episode 020 – Responses To Domestic Violence Claims
The Writer Mum Podcast - Episode 020 - Responses To Domestic Violence Claims
Using Amber Heard's divorce from Johnny Depp as an example, I look at some of the responses to her claims of domestic violence to show how hard it is for victims to speak out.
09/01/2016 09:04 PM
Episode 019 – Advanced, Or Not?
The Writer Mum Podcast - Episode 019 - Advanced, Or Not?
If a child is advanced in certain areas, the areas they aren't advanced in become all the more apparent, and that can cause as many problems as being advanced does benefits.
08/31/2016 07:33 PM
Episode 018 – Love Bombing
The Writer Mum Podcast - Episode 018 - Love Bombing
When you're faced with a child going through a rough patch with tantrums, bad behaviour and a lot of sadness, consider Love Bombing.
08/30/2016 08:13 PM
Episode 017 – A Child’s Right To Breastfeed
The Writer Mum - Episode 017 - A Child's Right To Breastfeed
It has been suggested that children have a legal right to breastfeed. I discuss whether that is fair or practical.
08/29/2016 06:22 PM
Episode 16 – Teaching Self Control / Being An Easy Target
The Writer Mum Podcast - Episode 016 - Teaching Self Control / Being An Easy Target
In this episode I talk about how my daughter is a wind up, my step-son is easily wound up, and how we have a job to do to teach them how to control these negative impulses so they can be happier in their lives as they grow.
08/28/2016 07:23 PM
Episode 015 – Mummy Guilt
The Writer Mum Podcast - Episode 015 - Mummy Guilt
Tonight I talk about how we don't give ourselves a break because we don't feel like we should be allowed one, but how desperately we sometimes need to take some time for ourselves.
08/27/2016 07:13 PM
Episode 014 – Responses To Rape Claims
The Writer Mum Podcast - Episode 014 - Responses To Rape Claims
TRIGGER WARNING - References to rape
Tonight I discuss the kind of comments women who speak out about rape receive and why it is so damaging, using the famous case of Amber Amour as an example.
08/26/2016 09:03 PM
Episode 013 – It’s A Sling Thing
The Writer Mum Podcast - Episode 013 - It's A Sling Thing
I discuss baby wearing for both practical and emotional reasons, and the impact having that amount of closeness with your mother can have on a developing child.
08/25/2016 07:30 PM
Episode 012 – Unpopular
The Writer Mum Podcast - Episode 012 - Unpopular
This week I talk about how my daughter will either learn to mask her peculiarities in school, or face lonliness, and how I struggled with the same issues.
08/24/2016 07:55 PM
Episode 011 – Rainbow Dash
The Writer Mum Podcast - Episode 011 - Rainbow Dash
Today I talk about how my daughter is a little bit weird, but how the My Little Pony Rainbow Dash has given her someone to aspire to who's as weird as she is!
08/23/2016 07:19 PM
Episode 010 – No Vagina, No Opinion?
The Writer Mum Podcast - Episode 010 - No Vagina, No Opinion?
TRIGGER WARNING - Discussion about abortion.
Should men's voices be heard on the subject of whether a woman should or should not be able to obtain an abortion?
08/22/2016 08:25 PM
Episode 009 – Why You’re A Terrible Mum
The Writer Mum Podcast - Episode 009 - Why You're A Terrible Mum
Nothing mums do is ever right and we are all told we are wrong for every decision we ever make. Are you a terrible mum? I am.
08/21/2016 06:58 PM
Episode 008 – When Are You Going To Marry Daddy?
The Writer Mum Podcast - Episode 008 - When Are You Going To Marry Daddy?
In today's episode I talk about my daughter's insecurity about not being her daddy's biological child and the way it presents itself.
08/21/2016 06:01 AM
Episode 007 – Body Shaming Ourselves
The Writer Mum Podcast - Episode 007 - Body Shaming Ourselves
Today I talk about how we see our own bodies in such a negative light after having babies, but how important it is that we stop shaming ourselves.
08/19/2016 06:59 PM
Episode 006 – What Would Flop Do?
The Writer Mum Podcast - Episode 006 - What Would Flop Do?
Today I talk about the character Flop from Bing Bunny, and how I always strive to be a more patient parent.
08/18/2016 07:38 PM
Episode 005 – Ten Tips To Make Toddlers Eat
Episode 005 - Ten Tips To Make Toddlers Eat
In this episode I share my experiences of weaning a child who now, aged 3 and a half, eats a wide variety of food, flavours and textures. Ten Tips that will hopefully make things easier for you when you come to wean your own child!
08/17/2016 09:08 PM
Episode 004 – Born To Love, Taught To Hate
The Writer Mum Podcast - Episode 004 - Born To Love, Taught To Hate
Today I talk about how children do not naturally judge or exclude people based on race, religion, gender or size, and how we as parents need to avoid teaching them that.
08/16/2016 08:59 PM
Episode 003 – Hating Pregnancy
The Writer Mum Podcast Episode 003 - Hating Pregnancy
Today I'm talking about the guilt and emotions you experience when you've found pregnancy hard due to pain or illness, and why we all need to give ourselves a break.
08/16/2016 05:38 AM
Episode 002 – Playing Hard To Get
The Writer Mum Podcast - Episode 002 - Playing Hard To Get
Today I talk about playing hard to get both in romantic relationships and in the cast of my eldest daughter and her step father, and the importance of respecting physical boundaries put forward by children.
08/14/2016 06:15 AM
Episode 001 – Introduction
WRITER MUM 001 - INTRODUCTION
Hi, I'm J.J. Barnes and this is my introduction to The Writer Mum Podcast. I talk a little bit about who I am and my work, and tell you what I'll be talking about in my future podcasts.
My contact information described in the podcast is here:
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Please get in touch and let me know what you think!